No notifications!

What is the point of this messenger when the other person doesnt get the notification or the message until a couple months later? Why do we have to be friends with them to send a message? I bet USPS ground ship is faster than the Facebook messenger. Please, change the notification status!! I sent my long lost Aunt a friends request but she doesnt want to add me because she doesnt know who I am!!! So what do I do?? I sent her a message saying who I am but she is not getting the notification sign because we r not friends!!!!!!!

Lisnuhy about Messenger, v127.0